In loving memory of Gary Born who sadly passed away on 21st April 2022
The funeral service was held on Monday 9th May at Mortlake Crematorium, followed by a reception at The Winter Garden at York House. A video of the service is shared below.
With enormous gratitude for more than 30 years of friendship, good humour, fun, courage and new ways of seeing the world. Gary – you made a very big positive difference to my life as you did to many many others. You will always be with us. Thank you.
I have very happy memories of Gary introducing me to chi gong, tai chi & mindfulness meditation classes at Paul’s cancer support centre. Gary had the most amazing smile that lit up his eyes & a passion & love for life in everything he did. Thank you Gary for showing me how to live with compassion & it’s been a pleasure to have you in my life briefly. You are a shining star of light beaming around us all. 🙏🏼
Gary-over the years I have known you I have found you to be bright and thoughtful. I’ve enjoyed your humour and admired your energy for and openness to life. This will stay with me.
Gary is remembered in Dallas, Texas. I met Gary only recently as fellow classmates in online programs. Via zoom, Gary was a genuine light that touched my life. My sincere condolences to Gary’s family and friends, and the communities of which he was part.
Gary was my neighbour for over 20 years. A really lovely guy to have around, he will be much missed.
Gary was a multifaceted person but what will stay with me is his warm heart and his compassion for others.
I remember our first MBCTca meeting. Gary arrived after us. He was flustered. Five minutes later, chairs out and everybody seated, Gary sat down. His demeanor changed. He became calm and peaceful. I had been sceptical about mindfulness, but I said to myself, I want to be able to be like that. Thank you Gary for what you taught me and how you changed my life for the better.
MBCT Ca Attendee
I only knew Gary via a Bodhi college group he led, & yet even via those limited interactions his goodness and humanity shone through. Kind, gentle, thoughtful – A “mensch”. He will be missed by so many…With deepest condolences to his family.
Gary, I knew you only briefly and only online through the community group you facilitated for Bodhi College. I’m grateful for your smile, your humour and the generosity with which you gave your time to help others come together in mindfulness.
I feel privileged to have known you, Gary, for so many years. What a wonderful friend you were; attentive, intelligent and funny, with an enthusiasm to live life to the full. I shall always miss you.
I met Gary through London Insight Meditation where I was a regular volunteer for some years. Gary’s energy, openness, kindness, enthusiasm,generosity and creativity were all qualities that seemed to contribute hugely to London Insight and to me personally as a novice meditator. He will be missed.
Really enjoyed knowing and working with Gary when we were both London Insight organisers. A kind and efficient colleague, full of enthusiasm and always positive and forward-looking in his outlook. He had so much to give, and gave so generously.
Gary was a wise and quietly kind person whose death leaves a gap in the on-line sangha of which he was a part. His comments, his smile and his dedication to the dharma leaves a imprint on my heart.
I valued Gary hugely both as a friend and as an energetic, thoughtful, creative colleague in the meditation world. His friendship was so solid and long-lasting, even during times when our paths didn’t cross so often, I realise now that over time he began to seem more like a brother than a friend. Thank you for everything, Gary.
Gary will be sorely missed by many people. Our mindfulness talk group who graduated from his courses were very fortunate that he continued the informal monthly talk sessions for so long because he saw they provided such help to people. He also had a wonderful sense of humour. It seems like he left this world too early.
I met Gary on a number of occasions in the context of mindfulness, in practice and in teaching. I was always struck by his warm presence, clarity of thinking and sparkling intelligence. I send my sincerest condolences to everyone who was close to Gary and is grieving his loss.
Gary and I met through work in the early 2000s. We quickly developed an enduring friendship. He was always easy to converse with, extremely knowledgeable about so many things, honest, and funny. But above all, a gracious spirit.
Luc Glasbeek (Amsterdam, NL)
We will miss you so much, Gary. You’ve been part of our extended family for more than three decades: an essential presence at so many convivial meals, Christmas Eves and holidays. None of them will be the same without you. Thank you.
I got to know Gary through his online meditation group. He was knowledgeable, kind and caring and cared for all members of the group. He really was a rock that we could depend on. I know he will be sorely missed by us all. Thank you for all you did for us Gary.
It was always a joy to spend time with Gary (albeit online) whether in his role as skillful facilitator of a wonderful community dharma group or friend in other dharma groups along the way. I feel so grateful for his kindness and generosity of spirit in these settings. He was a gem and my heart goes out to his family and all who will miss him.
I wish to send my sincere condolences to Gary’s family and friends. I had the pleasure to attend one of Gary’s signature Mindfulness course at Paul’s a few years ago. His teaching was not only effective but also compassionate. I learnt a great deal about myself from the meditation he guided us. I last saw him in a zoom session on 28 March. I was so touched that he remembered me and asked how I had been. I appreciate very much his devotion and passion for mindfulness and meditation. He helped many people esp. those with serious illness to recognise living the moment. I am sure he is missed, loved and respected by many students and patients. I believe Gary will stay fondly in loving memories of those whose lives he touched. Gary’s legacy n teaching will be the continuation of his living. God bless you, Gary. A huge honour to have met you in life. Please look after yourself up there, dear Gary 🙏🙏🙏
Gary was such a vibrant and thoughtful colleague. He’ll be sadly missed.
I have known Gary for some years, in my role of supervision lead, with the Mindfulness Network. Gary was a supervisor and mindfulness mentor with us. Gary has contributed so much over the years. His enthusiasm and engagment was catching. He always brought his depth of practice to whatever conversation we were having. I can see his smiling face now and feel his passionate energy. I have recieved so many messages of sadness since his death. He will be greatly missed by many people. With love to his family xxx
Gary, I am grateful to you for including me on the mindfulness course you ran at “Paul’s” some years ago now. But more than that, you taught me ways of seeing things with greater depth and understanding, of calming my turbulent mind, and building friendships.
Thank you, Erica Nunn
I first met Gary when I attended a London Insight meditation day many years ago. I was immediately struck by his passion, enthusiasm and friendliness. It has been a pleasure to know him since as a fellow trainee in the Community Dharma Leader programme run by Gaia house, and as a fellow mindfulness supervisor. I appreciated his warmth, thoughtfulness and openness. I will miss him greatly.
Although I knew Gary over many years, I only had the pleasure of his company on a number of family celebratory occasions. What I remember about him are his kind eyes and his quiet, gentle wit! I’m sure he will be sadly missed by all whose lives he touched. Sincerest condolences to Pauline and the rest of the family. X
Gary had a wonderful energy about him and a really keen mind. I remember having many rich conversations with him around mindfulness and Buddhism. Running a mindfulness course together I saw how important his practice was to him, his natural curiosity and keen desire to help others and the impact it had. I was sorry to lose touch and it was great to reconnect with him recently through his work with Nick Pole at the London Mindful Practitioners group. Gary, you’re positive spirit, joyous nature and deep humanity will be remembered,…thinking of you kindly with the generosity you shared with many others.
Meeting Gary as I moved into this neighbourhood was a real gift. His warmly supportive and welcoming presence will be hugely missed. My love and best wishes go to his family and friends.
Gary you were my mentor when I was learning to teach MBCTca. You were unfailingly kind, patient and incredibly insightful. You encouraged me and made it fun!
You were always so generous with your time and I will always be grateful for our long chats that I’m sure you didn’t always have time for!
I hope these tributes help your family and friends- there will be many, many people who are so sad to lose you too soon. Xxx
Gary, you were a wonderful friend from the first time I met you some thirty-three years ago. You had such energy for life, were so interested in the world and always a great conversationalist. You were an inspiration – you showed me how to live a good life after retiring from the corporate world. I shall really miss you but you’ll always be with me in spirit.
It has been a privilege to work with you over the years and to see how you made a difference to so many people. Sending my love to you, Pauline and your family. Rest in peace.
Dear Tango Gary you will be so so missed. Jane and Lennart x
Jane Greene Pettersson
I met and knew Gary through the zoom group that he initiated and hosted through Bodhi college, where he created a wonderful group of friends who support each other and explore the teachings of the Buddha. Gary’s skill and care in hosting the group have made it a space of trust, open sharing and investigating. Gary’s sincerity and openness in his own journey to know joy and peace in this life have I believe created a beautiful legacy, which continues to touch those who knew him and inspire them in their lives.
Thank you Gary I’ll miss you dear friend.
My deep condolences to your family and friends
Uncle Gary was a kind, caring and supportive uncle. Although we didn’t catch up all too often, when we did he always showed us warmth, love and attention. His opinions were important to me, and his presence in my life will be so missed. I am filled with so much sadness. Sending all my love to family and friends.
I’ve known Gary through an online dharma group he assembled and facilitated over the last 20 months. I have been incredibly grateful to his skill at holding such a meaningful space. I vividly remember the joy of seeing Gary in a breakout room of a dharma course recently along with another member of our group. It struck me then how grateful I was – I still am – to Gary for his generous heart, without which the sense of connection that sparked that joy would not have been possible.
My sympathy and condolences to Gary’s family and all who were close to him. I met Gary when we were both participants in a year long Contemplative Group Dynamics group following Stephen Levine’s book A Year to Live. We finished our group work just before the pandemic struck the world. Those of us who participated, led by Lawrence Ladden and Jale Cilasun, learned so much and our deep work was so timely given what unfolded globally. Little did we know that it would be timely for Gary in a more personal way. With much love and respect for the contribution that Gary made to our world.
I knew Gary through my work at the Mindfulness Network, and only via email. Yet somehow he always managed to have a kind of conversation with you, even in this medium, with reflections and considered decisions and also very heartfelt wishes. The latter one that I remember was the most recent from early April, when he wrote “hello, I hope you are well and happy and enjoying life” – it was such a lovely well-wishing to receive and I will always remember that and his warmth for someone he had never met in person. My heart goes out to his family and friends.
Gary – I remember you so well for your enthusiasm and passionate convictions about what you cared about – whether it was the BuddhaDharma, Mindfulness teaching, or your family and friends. You gave so much to the mindfulness and Dharma field over the years – and were so extraordinarily consistently committed. You will be greatly missed. Kind thoughts to your family and friends who love you.
Gary was a wonderful dharma teacher and companion on the path. I remember thinking the last time I saw him at an online study group that here was someone living a flourishing life. He communicated a contentment that was full of wisdom and peace. I am grateful to have known him.
I knew Gary as a teacher, and as a facilitator for a monthly Mindfulness support group at Pauls. I was shocked and saddened to hear the news of his sudden death. You might struggle to find a man as kind and as generous. It was a privilege to have known him and like many others to have been enriched by his company.
There are few people in life who truly change one for the better. Gary was one such person. His kindness , loving compassion and integrity was inspiring . One phrase he used which helped during difficult moments was ….just do the best you can. …. In will try in his memory . He will be sorely missed.